While all of what you said rings true (coming from an avid mac user as well as a gamer), I think the amount of apple users interested in doing anything like this are either just like myself and the OP of this thread, or rich enough to afford an apple vision pro. Which blows most modern vr devices away from the sound of it.
That being said, 8GB ram m2 macbook air has no lag cloud gaming xbox, running 20-30GB of 3d printing software and model editors, and like 50 chrome tabs open.
maybe not 50 but, either way, I believe those M2's aren't incapable. Using virtual desktop via my quest to type this, and have parallels running after making my way through page 1 of responses here with a few ideas.
Definitely will report back with any possible victories regarding all of this
lol