1st go to your meta app on ur phone and delete it.
Next go to ur bluetooth devices on ur phone and delete ur meta headset. If u dont see it delete any headset u dont recognize.
Next go to your meta account on PC, log in and delete your device from the devices section.
Turn ur headset off and factory reset by holding power on and volume down. When the menu comes up factory reset.
Once reset MAKE SURE YOU HAVE BOTH CONTROLLERS WITH YOU AS THIS IS THE MAIN PROBLEM.
Turn headset on and follow all setup prompts, you will notice now having both controllers there are more options/a more detailed setup. Once done youll see a pairing code again but the screen will look diff than when u were stuck.
Download the app on ur phone, it should auto connect, if it doesnt give it a minute or 2 as mine took a minute.
Then somewhere near headset settings or in headset settings on the app it should say "continue setup" thats how i got mine to work and finish pairing.
Yours might just say pair and itll work clicking that but mine set up fine after many many tries doing it how i just mentioned.
Good luck and dont rely on meta for any solid help. Telling u to connect to same wifi meanwhile the headset is in pairing mode and without both controllers u cant even connect to wifi.
Shout out to the person in the comments who mentioned needing both controllers as that essentially helped me figure this out.