Meta XR Simulator Broken/Version Mismatch (81 vs 85)

i haven't been able to get the Meta XR Simulator to work inside unity3d.  The Latest version of the Meta XR SDK is 85.0.0 but the Meta XR Simulator is 81.0.0. 

If i use the wizard to update the package, it gives an error trying to download it.  If i try to manually update it, the package manager has a latest version of 81.0.0.  And when i try to activate the simulator it will say its not found) If i downgrade everything to 81.0.0 it still has the issue.

It seems like i am not the only person having this issue as the reviews have a lot of people having the same complaint:

https://assetstore.unity.com/packages/tools/integration/meta-xr-simulator-266732#reviews

Any suggestions on how to get the XR Simulator working?  Or if it's just broken for everyone.